I’m sorry this happened. My best advice is to contact the state police and the FBI. Just make sure that your daughter has all her facts straight to the best of her ability.

Clint Van Zandt

https://www.gavindebecker.com/resources/book/the_gift_of_fear/

And the following story is only one of many:

http://blogs.abcnews.com/nightlinedailyline/2010/03/when-restraining-orders-dont-work.html

http://abcnews.go.com/Nightline/restraining-orders-stalkers-domestic-violence-victims-call-enforcement/story?id=9999086&page=1

When Men Batter Women:
New Insights into Ending
Abusive Relationships

By Neil Jacobson and John Gottman PH.D.
(paperback)

While national awareness of the issue of battering has increased in recent years, certain myths regarding abusive relationships still endure, including the idea that all batterers are alike.

But as Neil L. Jacobson, Ph.D., and John Gottman, Ph.D., explain, this is not the case. Drawing on the authors” own research, When Men batter Women offers a significant breakthrough in our understanding of the men who became batterers – and how to put a stop to the cycle of relationship violence.

After their decade of research with more than 200 couples, the authors conclude that not all batterers are alike, nor is the progression of their violence always predictable. But they have found that batters tend to fall into one of two categories, which they call “Pit Bulls” and “cobras.” Pit Bulls, men whose emotions quickly boil over, are driven by deep insecurity and an unhealthy dependence on the mates whom they abuse. Pit bulls also tend to become stalkers, unable to let go of relationships that have ended.

Cobras, on the other hand, are cool and methodical as they inflict pain and humiliation on their spouses or lovers. Cobras have often been physically or sexually abused themselves, frequently in childhood, and tend to see violence as an unavoidable part of life.

Knowing which type a batterer is can be crucial to gauging whether an abusive relationship is salvageable or whether the situation is beyond repair. Jacobson and Gottman look at the dynamics of abusive relationships, refuting prevalent myths. Never underestimating the inherent risk or danger involved, the authors discuss how women in their study group prepared themselves to leave an abusive relationship, where a battered woman can get help, and how she can keep herself safe.

When Men Batter Women offers invaluable advice and support to women in abusive relationships, as well as to friends, relatives, and caregivers who want to help.

Available from:
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Thank You
Glenn Adams